Expensive Sex and Fetish: The World of Financial Domination

A fetish is a defined by the Merriam-Webster dictionary as 'A strong and unusual desire or need for something.' It is also defined as 'An object of irrational reverence and obsessive devotion.'

Though fetishes are usually attributed to sex, not all fetishes are sexual in nature. 

Sexual fetishes involve a person deriving sexual pleasure from things/behaviors that are not considered normal.

Common sexual fetishes include Sado-Masochism (S&M) or Bondage (BDSM) -which involves deriving sexual pleasure from inflicting or receiving pain on a partner, Domination and Submission, Voyeurism and exhibitionism, Groupie, Threesome, etc.

But I discovered a funny (not actually funny, in the real sense of it), money-based fetish this past weekend called Financial Domination, or Findom, for short.

When you see that definition above, then you won't be surprised that some men (called 'pay pigs', 'money slaves', 'cash cows', and 'human ATMs') derive sexual pleasure from giving out their financial control to a woman (called 'Dominatrix or Domme'), in the world of financial domination.

In Findom, a man finds (mostly online) a Domme who will dominate him, and then he begins to send her money and other expensive gifts. He can pay her rent, subsidize her lifestyle, among other things in order to fulfill his fetish. These gifts are called 'Tributes.' But there is no sexual contact/relationship between them- it is purely for domination and submission.

And don't think these men are failures. Not at all, because they include CEOs, rich entrepreneurs, successful everyday people, and so on.

Let me give you some real life examples from some of the articles I sourced this blog post from.

Goddess Nia said, "There’s Guinea Pig, I literally take care of all his finances. I give him an allowance, I let him pay his rent, buy his necessities, and then I spend the rest. I won’t get into blackmailing, threatening to call someone’s wife if he doesn’t pay up. The idea of ruining a marriage is too f**ked up for me, but men actually sign contracts giving fin-dommes permission to do this. The adrenaline they get over a complete loss of control — having no power over body, mind, wallet, or privacy — is the ultimate rush."

"I had extremely wealthy, successful figures getting in touch with me. They feel enslaved by their companies; they’ve spent their whole lives making money for other people. They want to release that."

The guy who runs the blog- Yourmoneyslave is a confessed addict who says that after trying to stop but was unable to overcome the addiction, he had to take up two jobs in order to fulfill his fetish -with one of the jobs paying his Domme her tributes.

Wonders they say shall never end.

[Though in Nigeria, if you find a man who is a Guinea Pay Pig, or a Human ATM, he is most likely under the spell of Juju. lol. What makes this foreign one worse is that there is no (physical) sexual relationship between the Domme and the Sub.]

But all hope isn't lost if anyone is a Findom addict. There are support groups that offer help and rehabilitation. 

You can also read the blog post of J.Money of Budgetsaresexy for more on this fetish.

Goddess Minoa, a popular Domme

Photo sources: Google images, Vice.com